So excited to go pick up the niecey-poo from the airport today. I love that kid way too much. The good news is that her visit will be a nice little and needed distraction. You see, I'm trying really hard to not be needy.
I'm readjusting to 'dating' a computer geek. Yes, I put dating in quotes because I hate putting a label on something since there hasn't been any type of exclusivity expectations discussion. Fortunately, on a related note, the guy I had been talking to for a while in Altoona hasn't made any comments about meeting and the friends that wanted to introduce me to another one haven't said anything else - because I don't know how I should handle that if it comes up. As the Beff has joked: Should I put all of my Eggs in one basket? *ha ha*
Back to the topic at hand: I say geek with all of the love in the world. It is, after all, part of who I am, was a majority of my friends in college, and relevant to the most significant relationship to this point in my life. I get them. Or at least I really use to. It's refreshing to not have the overly needy, status checking, climbing half way up your butt behavior of some of the non-geeks I've seen through the past 10 years, but I'll admit... I'm wanting to hear from him a little more and worry about bugging him. You know how that goes. They say that when you're thinking of someone to send them a small message is nice, but on the other hand you almost feel forced to play 'the game' as to not freak the other person out. Yeah, I hate the phone, but the one night getting to chat was actually kind of nice (what on earth is wrong with me). I wouldn't think I should feel like I'm bugging him as most all of my communications are things that prb would have occurred as friends, but call me paranoid. Maybe I'm being mental because nothing is slated for the next 'date' and it makes me anxious to not have a timeframe to look forward to (sounds like me and my need to have the next cruise on the schedule). Fear me, I actually sound like a girl right now, don't I?
Now here's where I make some generalizations that I've seen to hold water, not saying this applies 100% to the current guy, but it helps me calm my girl insanity - so don't yell at me for rolling w/ the stereotypes until I get to know this specific one in the context of a dating relationship well enough. I keep reminding myself: geek = quiet, smart, reserved, observant. Once you get their focus on you they're very attentive and incredibly sweet, but at some point when you know them well enough you need to coordinate on a phrase or signal that says "I really need attention from you right now - give me 5 - and I'll let you get back to whatever holds your fascination", and they're willing to accommodate. They have feelings, but they have to trust you before they'll spill them or tell you much deep about who they are. Yes, I feel like I'm partially describing myself here too - especially in that last sentence.
Do guys think about this crap too? Prb not.
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